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  • NO MORE Silence

    NO MORE Silence

    When we stay silent, domestic violence thrives. This October, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), we are calling on our communities to break the silence. Each of us must make it our business to speak up when we see or hear something troubling and to have conversations with friends, family, colleagues, youth, and others in our lives. Whether it be in our workplaces, schools, places of worship, or other community spaces, we can support survivors and their children by raising awareness of the issue and creating environments that do not tolerate domestic violence.
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  • Purple Purse Challenge

    Purple Purse Challenge

    The RICADV is excited to be participating in the Allstate Foundation Purple Purse Challenge this October! The Purple Purse Challenge is an annual friendly fundraising competition held during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, where nonprofit organizations serving victims and survivors of domestic violence engage their supporters and communities to help raise funds. The 2017 Purple Purse Challenge starts Monday, October 2 at 12 p.m. Stay tuned for details!
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  • RI Men's Summit

    RI Men's Summit

    Rhode Island men, join us for the 4th Annual Men's Summit on November 9, an event designed for and led by men who want to prevent domestic violence in our communities. Most men are not violent, but many remain silent in the face of other men’s violence. This November, take a stand with Ten Men to help break the silence. We ask our supporters to invite the men in their lives to get involved! To learn more and to register, visit ricadv.org/tenmen.
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  • State House Victories!

    State House Victories!

    This September, the Rhode Island General Assembly reconvened for a special session to review the bills they left unfinished in June - and we have great news! Several of the RICADV's priority bills have passed! 2017 legislative victories include disarming dangerous abusers and guaranteeing earned sick and safe days for RI employees.
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  • Latino Communities

    Latino Communities

    Oprima el botón “Read More” para acceder a nuestro sitio web en Español.

    At the RICADV, we engage Latino communities in Rhode Island to raise awareness about domestic violence, the services and resources that are available in our state, and the need for all of us to get involved to end abuse. Access our website in Spanish by clicking the "Read More" button below or En Español at the top of this page.

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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: Monday, October 2, 2017

Letter to the Editor: When we stay silent, domestic violence thrives

By Deborah DeBare, Executive Director, Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence


[Providence, RI – October 2, 2017] When we stay silent, domestic violence thrives. With 1 in 4 Rhode Islanders experiencing domestic violence in their lifetimes, and nearly 1 in 10 Rhode Island high schoolers reporting they have already experienced physical dating violence, we all know loved ones, neighbors, and friends who will be or have been impacted by abuse.

This October, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), we are calling on our communities to break the silence. Each of us must make it our business to speak up when we see or hear something troubling and to have conversations with friends, family, colleagues, youth, and others in our lives.

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Warning Signs

Adapted from Domestic Violence: The Facts. An information handbook created by Peace at Home (c) 2003.

This list identifies a series of behaviors typically demonstrated by batterers and abusive people. All of these forms of abuse - psychological, economic, and physical – come from the barterer's desire for power and control. The list can help you recognize if you or someone you know is in a violent relationship. Check off those behaviors that apply to the relationship. The more checks on the page, the more dangerous the situation may be.

 

Emotional and Economic Attacks:

  • Destructive Criticism/Verbal Attacks: Name-calling; mocking; accusing; blaming; yelling; swearing; making humiliating remarks or gestures.
  • Pressure Tactics: Rushing you to make decisions through "guilt-tripping" and other forms of intimidation; sulking; threatening to withhold money; manipulating the children; telling you what to do.
  • Abusing Authority: Always claiming to be right (insisting statements are "the truth"); bossing you around; making big decisions; using "logic."
  • Disrespect: Interrupting; changing topics; not listening or responding; twisting your words; putting you down in front of other people; saying bad things about your friends and family.
  • Abusing Trust: Lying; withholding information; cheating on you; being overly jealous.
  • Breaking Promises: Not following through on agreements; not taking a fair share of responsibility; refusing to help with child care or housework.
  • Emotional Withholding: Not expressing feelings; not giving support, attention, or compliments; not respecting feelings, rights, or opinions.
  • Minimizing, Denying & Blaming: Making light of behavior and not taking your concerns about it seriously; saying the abuse didn't happen; shifting responsibility for abusive behavior; saying you caused it.
  • Economic Control: Interfering with your work or not letting you work; refusing to give you or taking your money; taking your car keys or otherwise preventing you from using the car; threatening to report you to welfare or other social service agencies.
  • Self-Destructive Behavior: Abusing drugs or alcohol; threatening suicide or other forms of self-harm; deliberately saying or doing things that will have negative consequences (e.g., telling off the boss).
  • Isolation: Preventing or making it difficult for you to see friends or relatives; monitoring phone calls; telling you where you can and cannot go.
  • Harassment: Making uninvited visits or calls; following you; checking up on you; embarrassing you in public; refusing to leave when asked.

Acts of Violence:

  • Intimidation: Making angry or threatening gestures; use of physical size to intimidate; standing in doorway during arguments; out shouting you; driving recklessly.
  • Destruction: Destroying your possessions (e.g., furniture); punching walls; throwing and/or breaking things.
  • Threats: Making and/or carrying out threats to hurt you or others.
  • Sexual Violence: Degrading treatment or discrimination based on your sex or sexual orientation; using force, threats or coercion to obtain sex or perform sexual acts.
  • Physical Violence: Being violent to you, your children, household pets or others: Slapping; punching; grabbing; kicking; choking; pushing; biting; burning; stabbing; shooting; etc ...
  • Weapons: Use of weapons, keeping weapons around which frighten you; threatening or attempting to kill you or those you love.

Communications Center

  • Domestic Violence Awareness Month +

    We conduct statewide public awareness campaigns during October, national Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), as a way to break the silence and stigma around domestic violence, raise up the voices and experiences of survivors, provide information about help and resources, and educate and engage our communities.
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  • Online Guide for Journalists +

    We work with statewide and local media to increase awareness about domestic violence, the services and resources available for people impacted by abuse, and the ways the community can get involved to help. Visit the RICADV's Online Guide for Journalists for best practices in covering domestic violence.
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2017 Purple Purse Challenge

2017 Purple Purse Challenge

The RICADV is participating in the Allstate Foundation Purple Purse Challenge this October, a friendly fundraising competition held during Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The 2017 Purple Purse Challenge starts Monday, October 2 at 12 p.m. Stay tuned for details!

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Your abuser may monitor your Internet use and may be able to view your computer activity.

To immediately leave our site and redirect to a different site, click on the box to the bottom-right of our website or hit the ESC (Escape) key on the upper-left of your keyboard.

If you feel that your computer is not secure, use a computer in another location that your abuser cannot access.

For more information and tips for staying safe online and on your devices, click "Read More" to visit the Privacy & Technology section of our website.

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Visit our Calendar of Events to find local and online events.

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AmazonSmile is a simple and automatic way for you to support the RICADV every time you shop, at no cost to you. When you shop at http://smile.amazon.com, you'll find the exact same low prices, vast selection and convenient shopping experience as Amazon.com, with the added bonus that Amazon will donate a portion of the purchase price to the RICADV.

On your first visit to AmazonSmile, you need to select a charitable organization to receive donations from eligible purchases before you begin shopping. Choose the RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence to support us. Amazon will remember your selection, and then every eligible purchase you make on AmazonSmile will result in a donation.

About the RICADV

The Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence (RICADV) is an organization dedicated to ending domestic violence. Formed in 1979, the organization provides support to its member agencies, strives to create justice for victims, and provides leadership on the issue of domestic violence in Rhode Island.

Member Agencies

The RICADV's network of member agencies provide comprehensive services to victims, including emergency shelter, support groups, counseling, and assistance with the legal system. For more information about these organizations and services, call the statewide Helpline at 800-494-8100 or click here.

Contact

422 Post Road, Suite 102
Warwick, RI 02888-1539

T (401) 467-9940
F (401) 467-9943