Peace at Home: An Informational Handbook by the RICADV
When it comes to addressing and ending domestic violence, we all have a part to play.
If you are looking for steps you can take to end an abusive relationship while staying safe, or looking to learn more about domestic violence so you can support a friend, this informational handbook can help guide you.
Click here to access this resource as a PDF. To request a hard copy, please contact the RICADV at 401-467-9940 or ricadv@ricadv.org.
Domestic violence is defined by a pattern of abusive behaviors used to establish and maintain power and control over another person. This abuse can affect intimate partners in a current or past relationship as well as family members from different households.
The violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, financial, or psychological. It can include any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone, regardless of age, race, gender, religion, place of residence, or socioeconomic status.
Domestic violence consists of a combination of abusive tactics and different sets of behaviors that an abusive partner uses to establish and maintain power and control.
An abuser may present any of these tactics and behaviors at any one time to enforce power within the relationship. Often, physical or extreme violence that is more overt reinforces routine, more subtle methods of abuse. That is why it is important for everyone to be informed about the warning signs of relationship violence.
The Power and Control Wheel can help you better understand the dynamics of abuse. It is a tool that can help survivors realize they are not alone in what they are experiencing and can help convey to bystanders the insidious nature of abuse, the complexities of domestic violence, the many forms it can take, and the difficulties and dangers that survivors face in ending their abusive relationship.
View the Power and Control Wheel (Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs, The Duluth Model).
It is important to be able to identify warning signs of abuse.
Red flags of an abusive person include someone who:
Why do victims sometimes return to or stay with their abusers?
A better question is, “Why does the abuser choose to abuse?”
With that said, there are major barriers to ending abusive relationships. Understanding these barriers can help victims stay safe and can help bystanders build better support systems for those experiencing abuse.
A person may stay in an abusive relationship for many reasons, including children, finances, love and hope for change, or fear of harm to themselves or loved ones.
A person may try multiple times to end an abusive relationship, so it is important to remain patient, supportive, and non-judgmental. Check in consistently, help the person stay safe, and assure them that they can count on you. Don't cut off support, and don't give up!
If you are being abused, know that you are not alone and that the abuse is not your fault.
If you are in an abusive relationship or think that you might be, you deserve safety and support. Contact a local domestic violence agency or call the statewide Helpline (1-800-494-8100) to speak with an advocate who can help. All calls and services are confidential.
If you know someone who is being abused, you can be a lifeline to this person. Learn how to help.
Visit the Get Help section of our website to learn more about the services and resources that are available for those impacted by domestic violence.
