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  • State House Advocacy

    State House Advocacy

    This year, we're supporting bills that will provide practical solutions for building healthy, safe families and that protect our basic human rights. The bills address multiple forms of abuse, making RI communities safer for all. Click "Read More" below to learn about the RICADV's 2017 Legislative Priorities. You can also view our Prezi to learn how survivor voices inform our legislative advocacy.
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  • Ten Men

    Ten Men

    Ten Men is an integral part of the RICADV's statewide plan to prevent intimate partner violence in Rhode Island. By engaging RI men as community leaders to become more knowledgeable, visible, and mobilized, we aim to change the harmful gender norms that perpetuate men’s violence against women and girls. #TenMenRI
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  • New Resource for RI

    New Resource for RI

    Now more than ever, people are becoming aware of and outraged by the harmful impacts of domestic violence. With primary prevention, we can stop the violence before it happens in the first place, before people ever become victims or perpetrators of abuse. To learn more, check out this new resource created by the RICADV!
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  • "The Way Home" Charm

    Alex and Ani has partnered with the RICADV and the National Network To End Domestic Violence to launch the CHARITY BY DESIGN charm bangle “The Way Home.” When you purchase your bracelets through the RICADV, 50% of the proceeds go toward supporting our work to end domestic violence in RI. You can purchase bracelets in person at the RICADV’s office in Warwick Monday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
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  • Latino Communities

    Latino Communities

    Oprima el botón “Read More” para acceder a nuestro sitio web en Español.

    At the RICADV, we proactively engage Latino communities and work to raise awareness about the help that is available through our member agencies. Each agency offers diverse programs and services that include safety planning, court advocacy, shelter, and support groups. Immigration help is also available. Access our website in Spanish by clicking the "Read More" button below or En Español at the top of this page.

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The Newsroom

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Latest News


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: Monday, May 22, 2017

Statement Regarding the Domestic Violence Homicide of Jennifer Silva

By Deborah DeBare, Executive Director, Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence


We are devastated by the domestic violence murder of Jennifer Silva that occurred this past weekend. In the early morning hours of Saturday, May 20, Jennifer died from injuries sustained from an alleged attack by her boyfriend, Allen Hanson. 

We are deeply saddened by this tragic case of domestic violence and extend our heartfelt condolences to all those who have been impacted by this heinous crime.

Domestic violence murder is rarely an isolated incident, but is often the final act in a pattern of abuse that has escalated over time. Although we cannot comment on the specifics of this case, we do know that Allen Hanson has a history of committing domestic violence crimes. Rhode Island must do more to hold dangerous abusers accountable.

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The adult helping relationship is the most powerful tool we have to assist children in recovering from traumatic events.

It is important for a child who has witnessed abuse to have positive relationships with trusted, caring adults, particularly with the non-abusive parent in a relationship where the parent:

  • Is emotionally available and present
  • Provides ongoing love and support
  • Listens to and talks to the child about their feelings around the abuse, even though it is difficult
  • Listens to the child recount their experiences of the abuse
  • Creates routine, stability and safety in the home 
  • Seeks help for their own needs in dealing with the abuse (e.g., counseling, support groups)

  • Communicate

  • Support

When we don’t talk with children about the abuse that is occurring, children will construct their own ways of understanding the situation.

Talk to your children. Make sure they know that:

  • Abuse is not the norm and is not okay 
  • Violence is not an acceptable way to solve problems 
  • Men do not have the right to control or abuse women 
  • People do not have the right to abuse others 
  • Everyone has a right to feel safe
  • Everyone deserves respect

When talking to children:

  • Let them know that it is safe for them to share their stories and feelings with you
  • Listen carefully to how they make sense of abuse
  • Give clear, simple explanations about violent events they may have witnessed
  • Build their self-esteem by reminding them that they are important and loved 

Support children who have witnessed domestic violence by:

  • Teaching alternatives to violence (e.g., helping children learn healthy conflict resolution skills; encouraging creative, nonviolent play and activities)
  • Nurturing your children
  • Modelling respect and nonviolent problem solving
  • Establishing rules and routines so that children know what to expect in order to relieve anxiety and reduce outbursts
  • Being patient if children act out

When a child feels… Help them…
Fear; lack of control or safety
  • Create a safety plan, such as going to a trusted neighbor’s house
  • Identify areas of their life where they can make their own plans and decisions
  • Establish rules, expectations, and daily routines
Anger at the abuser or the non-abusive parent
  • Learn how to express their anger in ways that do not harm themselves or others
Anger and love for the abuser; guilt for both feelings
  • Understand that it is okay to feel this way
  • Understand that they may love the abuser but cannot accept the abusive behavior
Loss of a parent due to separation; loss of safety
  • Develop a support system of extended family and friends outside the home
Guilt or responsibility for causing the violence or not being able to stop it
  • Understand that the violence is not their fault
  • View the problem as an issue for adults, not as something they need to "solve"

Communications Center

  • Online Guide for Journalists +

    We work with statewide and local media to increase awareness about domestic violence, the services and resources available for people impacted by abuse, and the ways the community can get involved to help. Visit the RICADV's Online Guide for Journalists for best practices in covering domestic violence.
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  • Domestic Violence Awareness Month +

    We conduct statewide public awareness campaigns during October, national Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), as a way to break the silence and stigma around domestic violence, raise up the voices and experiences of survivors, provide information about help and resources, and educate and engage our communities.
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Teen Center

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Abusive relationships impact young people, too. Nearly 1 in 10 Rhode Island high schoolers has already experienced physical dating violence. Visit our Teen Center to find resources and information for young people in RI.

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Your abuser may monitor your Internet use and may be able to view your computer activity.

To immediately leave our site and redirect to a different site, click on the box to the bottom-right of our website or hit the ESC (Escape) key on the upper-left of your keyboard.

If you feel that your computer is not secure, use a computer in another location that your abuser cannot access.

For more information and tips for staying safe online and on your devices, click "Read More" to visit the Privacy & Technology section of our website.

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Looking to get involved in the movement to end domestic violence?

Sign up to join our mailing list, and receive mail and emails from the RICADV!

Visit our Calendar of Events to find local and online events.

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AmazonSmile is a simple and automatic way for you to support the RICADV every time you shop, at no cost to you. When you shop at http://smile.amazon.com, you'll find the exact same low prices, vast selection and convenient shopping experience as Amazon.com, with the added bonus that Amazon will donate a portion of the purchase price to the RICADV.

On your first visit to AmazonSmile, you need to select a charitable organization to receive donations from eligible purchases before you begin shopping. Choose the RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence to support us. Amazon will remember your selection, and then every eligible purchase you make on AmazonSmile will result in a donation.

About the RICADV

The Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence (RICADV) is an organization dedicated to ending domestic violence. Formed in 1979, the organization provides support to its member agencies, strives to create justice for victims, and provides leadership on the issue of domestic violence in Rhode Island.

Member Agencies

The RICADV's network of member agencies provide comprehensive services to victims, including emergency shelter, support groups, counseling, and assistance with the legal system. For more information about these organizations and services, call the statewide Helpline at 800-494-8100 or click here.

Contact

422 Post Road, Suite 102
Warwick, RI 02888-1539

T (401) 467-9940
F (401) 467-9943