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  • No More Silence

    No More Silence

    1 in 4 Rhode Islanders is a victim of abuse. They are our loved ones, neighbors, coworkers, and friends, and they are counting on us to make it our business. It is time for all of us to break the silence, learn about the warning signs, and help end domestic violence.
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  • Prevention is Possible

    Prevention is Possible

    According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, domestic violence is preventable. We can stop violence before it happens in the first place, before people ever become victims or perpetrators of abuse. To learn more, check out this prevention resource created by the RICADV!
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  • Ten Men

    Ten Men

    Ten Men is an integral part of the RICADV's statewide plan to prevent intimate partner violence in Rhode Island. By engaging male community leaders to become more knowledgeable, visible, and mobilized, we aim to change the harmful gender norms that perpetuate men’s violence against women and girls. #TenMenRI
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  • Paper Crane Bangle

    Paper Crane Bangle

    We are so excited to partner with ALEX AND ANI and the National Network to End Domestic Violence on the brand new "Paper Crane" Charity By Design bangle. When you purchase your bracelet through the RICADV, 50% of the proceeds go toward supporting our work to end domestic violence in RI. You can purchase bracelets in person at the RICADV’s office in Warwick Monday through Friday, 9 AM to 5 PM.
  • No Más Silencio

    No Más Silencio

    Para acceder a nuestro sitio web en Español: www.ricadv.org/es/ayuda-y-servicios

    We engage Latino communities in Rhode Island, translating our materials and building partnerships to help end domestic violence. We strive to raise awareness about the help that is available in our state for those impacted by abuse and the ways we can all get involved to end it.

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The Newsroom

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Latest News


Statement Regarding the Domestic Violence Homicide of Maniriho Nkinamubanzi

By Vanessa Volz, Executive Director, Sojourner House, and Deborah DeBare, Executive Director, Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence

[Providence, RI – Thursday, November 16, 2017] Our hearts go out to the family, friends, and community of Maniriho Nkinamubanzi, who was killed in Providence last Friday by her estranged husband, Bosco Tukamuhabwa. We grieve this tragic loss of life and extend our deepest condolences to all who have been impacted by this heinous crime, the fourth domestic violence homicide of 2017.

Maniriho was a refugee from the Congo, who was working to build a better life for herself and her family in Rhode Island. We are particularly devastated for Maniriho’s four children. No child should ever have to experience the loss of their mother through such tragedy or endure the suffering caused by violence in the home.

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The adult helping relationship is the most powerful tool we have to assist children in recovering from traumatic events.

It is important for a child who has witnessed abuse to have positive relationships with trusted, caring adults, particularly with the non-abusive parent in a relationship where the parent:

  • Is emotionally available and present
  • Provides ongoing love and support
  • Listens to and talks to the child about their feelings around the abuse, even though it is difficult
  • Listens to the child recount their experiences of the abuse
  • Creates routine, stability and safety in the home 
  • Seeks help for their own needs in dealing with the abuse (e.g., counseling, support groups)

  • Communicate

  • Support

When we don’t talk with children about the abuse that is occurring, children will construct their own ways of understanding the situation.

Talk to your children. Make sure they know that:

  • Abuse is not the norm and is not okay 
  • Violence is not an acceptable way to solve problems 
  • Men do not have the right to control or abuse women 
  • People do not have the right to abuse others 
  • Everyone has a right to feel safe
  • Everyone deserves respect

When talking to children:

  • Let them know that it is safe for them to share their stories and feelings with you
  • Listen carefully to how they make sense of abuse
  • Give clear, simple explanations about violent events they may have witnessed
  • Build their self-esteem by reminding them that they are important and loved 

Support children who have witnessed domestic violence by:

  • Teaching alternatives to violence (e.g., helping children learn healthy conflict resolution skills; encouraging creative, nonviolent play and activities)
  • Nurturing your children
  • Modelling respect and nonviolent problem solving
  • Establishing rules and routines so that children know what to expect in order to relieve anxiety and reduce outbursts
  • Being patient if children act out

When a child feels… Help them…
Fear; lack of control or safety
  • Create a safety plan, such as going to a trusted neighbor’s house
  • Identify areas of their life where they can make their own plans and decisions
  • Establish rules, expectations, and daily routines
Anger at the abuser or the non-abusive parent
  • Learn how to express their anger in ways that do not harm themselves or others
Anger and love for the abuser; guilt for both feelings
  • Understand that it is okay to feel this way
  • Understand that they may love the abuser but cannot accept the abusive behavior
Loss of a parent due to separation; loss of safety
  • Develop a support system of extended family and friends outside the home
Guilt or responsibility for causing the violence or not being able to stop it
  • Understand that the violence is not their fault
  • View the problem as an issue for adults, not as something they need to "solve"

Communications Center

  • Domestic Violence Awareness Month +

    We conduct statewide public awareness campaigns each October, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, to keep the issue of domestic violence visible, provide information about community resources, and engage Rhode Islanders in helping to end abuse.
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  • Online Guide for Journalists +

    We work with the Rhode Island media to ensure that press coverage on domestic violence increases awareness about the issue, provides information about available resources, and engages the community to help end abuse. Visit the RICADV's Online Guide for Journalists for best practices on covering domestic violence.
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Teen Center

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Abusive relationships impact young people, too. Visit our Teen Center to find resources and information for young people in RI.

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  • Be Tech Safe
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  • 35 Years of Progress

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Your abuser may monitor your Internet use and may be able to view your computer activity.

To immediately leave our site, click on the box at the bottom-right of our website or hit the ESC (Escape) key on the upper-left of your keyboard.

If you feel that your computer is not secure, use a computer in another location that your abuser cannot access.

For tips on how to use the Internet and technology safely if you are in an abusive situation, visit the Privacy & Technology section of our website.

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Do you want to help end domestic violence in your community?

Visit our Calendar of Events to find ways to get involved!

To stay up to date on the work we do and how you can play your part, sign up to receive RICADV emails.

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AmazonSmile is a simple and automatic way for you to support the RICADV every time you shop, at no cost to you. When you shop at http://smile.amazon.com, you'll find the exact same low prices, vast selection and convenient shopping experience as Amazon.com, with the added bonus that Amazon will donate a portion of the purchase price to the RICADV.

On your first visit to AmazonSmile, you need to select a charitable organization to receive donations from eligible purchases before you begin shopping. Choose the RI Coalition Against Domestic Violence to support us. Amazon will remember your selection, and then every eligible purchase you make on AmazonSmile will result in a donation.

Lisa Leslie Says No More35th Anniversary Celebration

In 2014, the RICADV celebrated 35 years of progress in advocating for victims and holding abusers accountable.

On October 9, during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we commemorated this milestone with special guest Lisa Leslie, WNBA legend, four-time Olympic gold medalist, and supporter of the national NO MORE campaign against domestic violence.

We thank everyone who has played a part in helping us move our work forward. Together we can end domestic violence.

About the RICADV

The Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence (RICADV) is an organization dedicated to ending domestic violence. We were formed in 1979 to support and assist the domestic violence agencies in Rhode Island. We provide leadership to our member agencies, strive to create justice for victims, and raise awareness on the issue of domestic violence in Rhode Island.

Member Agencies

Our network of member agencies provides comprehensive emergency and support services to victims of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual violence, and stalking. Services include 24-hour hotline support, emergency shelter, support groups, counseling services, and assistance with the legal system. For more information, call the statewide Helpline at 800-494-8100 or click here.

Contact Details

422 Post Road, Suite 102
Warwick, RI 02888-1539

T (401) 467-9940

F (401) 467-9943


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