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Ten Men is made up of Rhode Island men from diverse walks of life who share a common vision — a world without domestic violence.

While most men do not and would never use violence in their relationships, many men remain silent in the face of other men's violence because they do not know what to do or how to help. Ten Men is committed to breaking that silence.

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Ten Men is an integral part of the RICADV's statewide plan to prevent intimate partner violence in Rhode Island. By engaging RI men as community leaders to become more knowledgeable, visible, and mobilized in their efforts to prevent domestic violence, we aim to change the harmful gender norms that perpetuate men’s violence against women and girls. This work is made possible by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's (CDC) DELTA FOCUS grant.

For more information or to find out how you can get involved, contact tenmen@ricadv.org.

Ten Men 2016


Stay tuned for more on this year's Ten Men members!

  • Omar Bah, Founder and Executive Director, Refugee Dream Center
  • Len Cabral, Storyteller
  • Ian Colomer, Policy Associate, RICADV
  • Derek Grinkin, Property Manager; Assistant Football Coach, Salve Regina University
  • Rick Harkins, Financial Advisor/Founder/CEO, Harkins Wealth Management
  • James Kwon, Designer, Founder and CEO, Figmints Design Agency
  • Erlin Rogel, J.D., Teach for America Middle School Teacher, Providence
  • Peter Simon, M.D., Pediatrician, Public Health/Health Equity
  • Rich Tarlaian, Retired Police Officer; Adjunct Professor in Sociology, CCRI; Nonviolence Teacher
  • Larry Warner, M.P.H., Strategic Initiative Officer, Rhode Island Foundation

Ten Men 2015

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  • Digital Stories

  • Raising Awareness


You can also click on the "Digital Stories" tab to watch the Ten Men Digital Stories series and learn more about the 2015 members!

 

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Lee Clasper-Torch
RICADV Men's Engagement Coordinator

In 2015, the RICADV hired Lee Clasper-Torch, who plays an integral role in the Ten Men project.

Lee's contributions have helped strengthen the program, and we are excited to continue our work together as we strive to prevent domestic violence in RI!

To learn more about Lee, visit the Staff section of our website.

 

 

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Taylor Britto
Providence Police Officer

Peter Converse
Newport Community Leader
Marty Carson

Marty Cooper
Dir. of Community Relations, Jewish Alliance of Greater RI

Carson Moore
Rhode Island College Student

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Marlon Ramdehal
Associate Director of Programs, Year Up Providence

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Nelson Rocha
Father, Community Organizer

 

 


The Ten Men 2015 Digital Stories series features current members, all local Rhode Island men, sharing their stories about why preventing domestic violence is important to them and why they joined Ten Men.

The digital stories were filmed, edited, and produced by Neil Guliano.

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Peter Converse

Marty Cooper

Marlon Ramdehal

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Ten Men 2015 Radio

Listen to Ten Men 2015's radio public service announcement (PSA). The PSA aired on local radio stations throughout the month of June, encouraging RI men to get involved in the work to end domestic violence.

The public service announcement also aired in Spanish on Latina 100.3 FM.

 

Watch Ten Men's television public service announcement, which aired throughout June on local networks.

 

Ten Men 2014
  • Ten Men 2014

  • Raising Awareness

  • National Recognition

 

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Reverend Don Anderson was raised in Cranston, Rhode Island and is an Executive Minister at the Rhode Island State Council of Churches.

 

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Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr. is the Director of Program Operations at Community Action Partnership of Providence. He graduated from Roger Williams University in 1999 and has since been a prominent advocate for community and youth health.

"I've literally held men as they've broken down in tears reflecting on their role as abusers. They see their sons and grandsons going down the same path they set for them as their role model. I now stand shoulder to shoulder with some of them in answering the call to be more than just well-intentioned men. The Ten Men project allows many of us to give a face and voice to the male response needed to end domestic violence. My hope is that men throughout my state will stand with me to stop intimate partner violence and develop healthy, positive, loving relationships." – Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr.

 

Jay Gotra, Ten Men 2014

Jay Gotra is the CEO and founder of Alliance Security. He lives in Providence, RI. Jay graduated from UMass Dartmouth and was previously CEO of VMS Alarms.

 

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Edgar Moya is an Account Executive at Telemundo Providence. He graduated from the InterAmerican University of Puerto Rico with a Bachelor's Degree in Accounting in 1999 and also received a Bachelor's Degree in Accounting from CCRI. Edgar is fluent in Spanish.

"I strongly believe that it is possible to break the cycle of domestic violence if everybody gets involved, including the men in our community."  Edgar Moya

 

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W. Scott Walker, MD, FACOG is an obstetrician and gynecologist at Ob-Gyn Associates. He graduated from Harvard University and received his medical degree from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School at Dallas. Scott is fluent in Spanish.

 

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John Youte is the former Director of Outreach, Admissions and Student Services at Year Up Rhode Island and has over 15 years of experience in career/social services. John is fluent in Haitian-Creole.

"As a father of a six-year-old daughter, I am here to stand beside her to ensure that she will not live in a culture where violence is the norm. We as men must become agents of change to spread the message to men in our state. This cause needs all of our efforts and advocacy to change mindsets of a culture that limits us and promotes violence against those we love dearly." – John Youte

 

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Rafael Zapata is the Associate Vice President and Chief Diversity Officer at the Office of Institutional Diversity at Providence College. He is fluent in Spanish and has been involved in diversity and cultural work at both Swarthmore College and Providence College since 2002.

In 2014, Ten Men created this broadcast public service announcement (PSA) to help raise awareness about their work.

The PSA aired on local television networks throughout the month of June and featured Ten Men members addressing domestic violence in their workplaces.

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Ten Men also created radio PSAs in both English and Spanish that aired throughout the month of June.

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Ten Men received national recognition in 2014 from NOMORE.org for its innovative public awareness campaign.

First, Ten Men was spotlighted in the June issue of the national NO MORE newsletter.

Then in July, NOMORE.org featured Ten Men on its blog in the post, "Ten Men Can Make a Difference: Meet the Men Who are Redefining Manhood."

 

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Ten Men 2013


Ten Men made its public debut in 2013 with a June public awareness campaign.

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Ten Men members were committed to educating the community on the importance of men getting involved in the work to end domestic violence.

Their television and radio PSAs ran throughout June, encouraging Rhode Island men to start conversations with the men and boys in their lives and to lead by example in treating women with respect, having healthy relationships, being a role model for young people, and understanding the impact of the language we use.

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Watch the 2013 Ten Men broadcast PSA here!

Ten Things Men Can Do

Ten Things Men Can Do to Prevent Violence Against Women

  1. Approach violence against women as an issue that involves men of all ages and socioeconomic, racial and ethnic backgrounds. View men not as violent perpetrators but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
  2. If a friend, relative, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner, or is disrespectful or abusive toward girls and women in general, don't look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try talking to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Consult a friend, parent, teacher or counselor for help. Don't remain silent.
  3. Have the courage to look inward. Question your own attitudes. Don't be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might perpetuate sexism and violence; then work toward changing them.
  4. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused, ask if you can help.
  5. If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help.
  6. Be an ally to women who are working to end gender-based violence. Support the work of college and community women's centers. Attend related events. Help raise funds for victim services.
  7. Recognize and speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against lesbians and gays are wrong, and this abuse has direct links to sexism and, therefore, violence against women.
  8. Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence. Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
  9. Don't fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any website, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media.
  10. Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don't involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men's programs. Lead by example.

(Adapted from a resource by Jackson Katz, one of America's leading anti-sexist male activists and co-founder of the Mentors In Violence Prevention (MVP) program. View a PDF of the original resource in English or in Spanish.)