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Ten Men A Project of the RICADVTen Men is made up of Rhode Island men from diverse walks of life who share a common vision—a world without domestic violence.

While most men do not and would never use violence in their relationships, many men remain silent in the face of other men's violence because they do not know what to do or how to help. Ten Men is committed to breaking that silence.

For more information or to find out how you can get involved, contact tenmen@ricadv.org.

 


 Ten Men Say No More Silence


We’re calling on Rhode Island men to take a stand and speak out against abuse.

The No More Silence campaign features members of Ten Men 2016-17. Join them in saying "No More." Your community needs your voice!

Ten Men Digital Stories

The Ten Men Digital Stories series feature Ten Men members, all local Rhode Island men, sharing their stories about why preventing domestic violence is important to them and why they joined Ten Men.

Featuring members from Ten Men cohorts 2016-17 and 2015-16, the digital stories were filmed, edited, and produced by Neil Guliano.

  • Ten Men 2016-17

  • Ten Men 2015-16


Omar Bah, Ten Men 2016-17
Ian Colomer, Ten Men 2016-17


Rick Harkins, Ten Men 2016-17
Erlin Rogel, Ten Men 2016-17


Peter Simon, Ten Men 2016-17
Rich Tarlaian, Ten Men 2016-17


Larry Warner, Ten Men 2016-17

 

Lee Clasper-Torch

Peter Converse

Marty Cooper

Marlon Ramdehal

Nelson Rocha

 

Ten Men Public Awareness Campaigns
  • 2017

  • 2014-2016

  • 2013


Radio

Listen to the most recent Ten Men radio public service announcement (PSA), which aired in English on 94 HJY, WEEI 103.7, and PANDORA!

The PSA also aired in Spanish on Latina 100.3 FM.


Posters

 Poster - No More "It's Not My Problem"           Poster - No More "Boys Will Be Boys"
     
 Poster - No More "We Don't Talk About That"    Poster - No More "Why Doesn't She Just Leave"
     
Poster - No More "But They Go To My Church"   Poster - No More "It's Just A Women's Issue"
     
 Poster - No Mas "Eso No Sucede Aqui"    Poster - No More "I'll Say Something Next Time"

Television

TENMEN PSA THUMB VID

In 2014, Ten Men created a television public service announcement (PSA) that showed how men can help prevent domestic violence at the community level.

Featuring Ten Men members addressing domestic violence in their workplaces, the PSA aired on local TV stations throughout the month of June in both 2014 and 2015.

Radio

In 2014, the voice-over from the television PSA also aired as a radio PSA in both English and Spanish on local stations throughout the month.

In 2015, we re-recorded the radio PSA in English to highlight new voices from Ten Men. The PSA aired in English and Spanish on local stations throughout June in both 2015 and 2016.

Ten Men PSA 2013

Ten Men made its public debut in 2013 with a June public awareness campaign.

Airing throughout the month on local TV and radio stations, the Ten Men public service announcement encouraged Rhode Island men to start conversations with the men and boys in their lives and to lead by example in treating women with respect, having healthy relationships, being a role model for young people, and understanding the impact of the language we use.

Meet the Members of Ten Men
  • Ten Men 2017-18

  • Ten Men 2016-17

  • Ten Men 2015-16

  • Ten Men 2014

  • Ten Men 2013

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Lee Clasper-Torch
RICADV Men's Engagement Coordinator
Ten Men Project

To learn more about Lee, visit the Staff section of our website.

 

 

 

 

Julio Alicea Ten Men 2017-18  Victor Arias, Ten Men 17-18
Julio Alicea, M.A.T
Social Studies Teacher and Advisor
Blackstone Academy Charter School

Victor Arias
Public Health Professional;
Community Board Member

Michael Burt Ten Men 17-18  Terry Cannon, Ten Men 17-18
Michael Burt
Senior Project Manager
Optum Healthcare

Terry Cannon
Founder and Senior Instructor, Tai Chi For All;
Education Reformer

Antonio Da Veiga Rocha, Ten Men 17-18  Anthony Faccenda, Ten Men 17-18
Antonio Da Veiga Rocha
Interdisciplinary Artist;
Boys and Men's Prevention
Specialist, Day One

Anthony Faccenda
Housing Advocacy Administrator &
Early Intervention Program Supervisor,
AIDS Project Rhode Island (APRI)

Marshall Lancey, Ten Men 17-18  Jason Rodrigues, Ten Men 17-18
Marshall Lancey
Assistant Director of Student Conduct
Johnson & Wales University

Jason Rodrigues
Foreman
Plumbing/Heating/Refrigeration

Travis Rymer, Ten Men 17-18 Jonathan Sigman, Ten Men 17-18
Travis Rymer
Associate Pastor, Grace Harbor Church;
Collegiate Coordinator, Baptist Convention
of New England

Jonathan Sigman
Social Worker, South Kingstown Schools;
Psychotherapist, Private Practice


 Not yet pictured:

  • Noah Pushor, Senior and Student Leader, Roger Williams University
  • John Wesley, Director of Policy and Advocacy, RICADV

Omar Bah Ten Men  Len Cabral Ten Men

Omar Bah
Founder/Executive Director, Refugee Dream Center


Len Cabral
Storyteller
(Original photo credit: Janet Swift)

Ian Colomer Ten Men  Derek Grinkin Ten Men

Ian Colomer

Policy Associate, RICADV

Derek Grinkin
Property Manager; Assistant Football Coach, Salve Regina University
Rick Harkins Ten Men  James Kwon Ten Men

Rick Harkins
Financial Advisor/Founder/CEO, Harkins Wealth Management


James Kwon
Designer/Founder/CEO, Figmints Design Agency
(Original photo credit: Timothy Donovan)

Erlin Rogel Ten Men Peter Simon Ten Men


Erlin Rogel, J.D.
Teach for America Middle School Teacher, Providence


Peter Simon, M.D.
Pediatrician; Retired Medical Director at the RI Dept. of Health

Rich Tarlaian Ten Men

Larry Warner Ten Men


Rich Tarlaian

Retired Police Officer; Adjunct Professor in Sociology, CCRI; Nonviolence Teacher
Larry Warner, M.P.H.
Public Health Professional; Retired Firefighter

Taylor Peter

Taylor Britto
Providence Police Officer

Peter Converse
Newport Community Leader
Marty Carson

Marty Cooper
Dir. of Community Relations, Jewish Alliance of Greater RI

Carson Moore
Rhode Island College Student

Marlon

Marlon Ramdehal
Associate Director of Programs, Year Up Providence

Nelson

Nelson Rocha
Father, Community Organizer

 

 

 

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Reverend Don Anderson was raised in Cranston, Rhode Island and is an Executive Minister at the Rhode Island State Council of Churches.

 

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Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr. is the Director of Program Operations at Community Action Partnership of Providence. He graduated from Roger Williams University in 1999 and has since been a prominent advocate for community and youth health.

"I've literally held men as they've broken down in tears reflecting on their role as abusers. They see their sons and grandsons going down the same path they set for them as their role model. I now stand shoulder to shoulder with some of them in answering the call to be more than just well-intentioned men. The Ten Men project allows many of us to give a face and voice to the male response needed to end domestic violence. My hope is that men throughout my state will stand with me to stop intimate partner violence and develop healthy, positive, loving relationships." – Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr.

 

Jay Gotra, Ten Men 2014

Jay Gotra is the CEO and founder of Alliance Security. He lives in Providence, RI. Jay graduated from UMass Dartmouth and was previously CEO of VMS Alarms.

 

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Edgar Moya is an Account Executive at Telemundo Providence. He graduated from the InterAmerican University of Puerto Rico with a Bachelor's Degree in Accounting in 1999 and also received a Bachelor's Degree in Accounting from CCRI. Edgar is fluent in Spanish.

"I strongly believe that it is possible to break the cycle of domestic violence if everybody gets involved, including the men in our community."  Edgar Moya

 

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W. Scott Walker, MD, FACOG is an obstetrician and gynecologist at Ob-Gyn Associates. He graduated from Harvard University and received his medical degree from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School at Dallas. Scott is fluent in Spanish.

 

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John Youte is the former Director of Outreach, Admissions and Student Services at Year Up Rhode Island and has over 15 years of experience in career/social services. John is fluent in Haitian-Creole.

"As a father of a six-year-old daughter, I am here to stand beside her to ensure that she will not live in a culture where violence is the norm. We as men must become agents of change to spread the message to men in our state. This cause needs all of our efforts and advocacy to change mindsets of a culture that limits us and promotes violence against those we love dearly." – John Youte

 

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Rafael Zapata is the Associate Vice President and Chief Diversity Officer at the Office of Institutional Diversity at Providence College. He is fluent in Spanish and has been involved in diversity and cultural work at both Swarthmore College and Providence College since 2002.

Ten Men 2013

 

Ten Things Men Can Do

Ten Things Men Can Do to Prevent Violence Against Women

  1. Approach violence against women as an issue that involves men of all ages and socioeconomic, racial, and ethnic backgrounds. View men not as violent perpetrators but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
  2. If a friend, relative, coworker, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner, or is disrespectful or abusive toward girls and women in general, don't look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try talking to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Consult a friend, parent, teacher, or counselor for help. Don't remain silent.
  3. Have the courage to look inward. Question your own attitudes. Don't be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might perpetuate sexism and violence; then work toward changing them.
  4. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused, ask how you can help.
  5. If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help.
  6. Be an ally to women who are working to end gender-based violence. Support the work of college and community women's centers. Attend related events. Help raise funds for victim services.
  7. Recognize and speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against lesbians and gays are wrong. This abuse has direct links to sexism and, therefore, to violence against women.
  8. Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence. Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
  9. Don't fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any website, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media.
  10. Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don't involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men's programs. Lead by example.

(Adapted from a resource by Jackson Katz, one of America's leading anti-sexist male activists and co-founder of the Mentors In Violence Prevention (MVP) program. View a PDF here.)

Resources for Men Who Want to Get Involved

A Call to Men is a national organization that works to create a world where all men and boys are loving and respectful and all women and girls are valued and safe.

www.acalltomen.org

Twitter: @acalltomen

Facebook: @acalltomen


The Coaching Boys into Men (CBIM) program of Futures Without Violence invites men to utilize their influence to prevent domestic violence. Men – as fathers, brothers, coaches, teachers, and mentors – have a role to play in coaching boys into men.

Coaching Boys into Men website: www.coachescorner.org

Futures Without Violence website: www.futureswithoutviolence.org/engaging-men

Twitter: @WithoutViolence

Facebook: @FuturesWithoutViolence


Men Stopping Violence provides organizations, communities, and individuals with knowledge and tools to mobilize men to prevent violence against women and girls.

www.menstoppingviolence.org

Twitter: @MenStopViolence

Facebook


Hollaback! is a global movement to end harassment powered by a network of grassroots activists.

www.ihollaback.org

Twitter: @ihollabackihollaback

Facebook: @ihollaback


Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) provides leadership, within sports and beyond, to address the global issues of sexism, especially men’s violence against women.

www.mvpnational.org

Facebook: @mvpnational

MVP Strategies is an organization that provides gender violence prevention education and training, utilizing the concepts and curricular materials first developed by the Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) program.

www.mvpstrat.com

Twitter: @mvpstrategies

Facebook: @mvpstrategies


White Ribbon is a global movement of men and boys working to end violence against women and girls and to promote gender equity, healthy relationships, and a new vision of masculinity.

www.whiteribbon.ca

Twitter: @whiteribbon

Facebook: @whiteribboncampaign