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Ten MenTen Men is made up of Rhode Island men from diverse walks of life who share a common vision — a world without domestic violence.

While most men do not and would never use violence in their relationships, many men remain silent in the face of other men's violence because they do not know what to do or how to help. Ten Men is committed to breaking that silence.

For more information or to find out how you can get involved, contact tenmen@ricadv.org.

Digital Stories

Check out the Ten Men Digital Stories below, featuring members of the 2016-2017 and 2015-2016 Ten Men cohorts!

Hear from the members about why they joined Ten Men and why getting involved to help prevent domestic violence is important to them.

The digital stories were filmed and produced by local videographer Neil Guliano.

  • 2016-2017 Cohort

  • 2015-2016 Cohort

 

Omar Bah, Ten Men Digital StoryIan Colomer, Ten Men Digital Story

Rick Harkins, Ten Men Digital StoryErlin Rogel, Ten Men Digital Story

Peter Simon, Ten Men Digital StoryRich Tarlaian, Ten Men Digital Story

Larry Warner, Ten Men Digital StoryTen Men logo

 

Lee Clasper-Torch, Ten Men Digital Story

Peter Converse, Ten Men Digital Story

Marty Cooper, Ten Men Digital Story

Marlon Ramdehal, Ten Men Digital Story

Nelson Rocha, Ten Men Digital StoryTen Men logo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Meet the Members
  • 2017-2018 Cohort

  • 2016-2017 Cohort

  • 2015-2016 Cohort

  • 2014-2015 Cohort

  • 2013 Cohort

 

Lee Clasper-Torch, Men's Engagement Coordinator
Lee Clasper-Torch
Men's Engagement Coordinator

In 2015, Lee Clasper-Torch joined the RICADV staff as Men's Engagement Coordinator for the Ten Men project.To learn more about Lee, visit the Staff page of our website. 

 


Julio Alicea, Ten Men 2017-18

Victor Arias, Ten Men 2017-18
Julio Alicea, M.A.T.
Social Studies Teacher and Advisor, Blackstone Academy
Charter School

Victor Arias
Public Health Professional;
Community Board Member

Michael Burt, Ten Men 2017-18  Terry Cannon, Ten Men 2017-18
Michael Burt
Senior Project Manager
Optum Healthcare

Terry Cannon
Founder, Tai Chi For All;
Education Reformer

Antonio Da Veiga Rocha, Ten Men 2017-18  Anthony Faccenda, Ten Men 2017-18
Antonio Da Veiga Rocha
Boys and Men's Prevention Specialist, Day One;
Interdisciplinary Artist

Anthony Faccenda
Housing Advocacy Administrator
AIDS Project Rhode Island

Marshall Lancey, Ten Men 2017-18 Noah Pushor, Ten Men 2017-18
Marshall Lancey
Assistant Director of Student Conduct
Johnson & Wales University

Noah Pushor
Senior and Student Leader
Roger Williams University

Jason Rodrigues, Ten Men 2017-18 Travis Rymer, Ten Men 2017-18
Jason Rodrigues
Foreman
Plumbing/Heating/Refrigeration

Travis Rymer
Associate Pastor, Grace Harbor Church;
Collegiate Coordinator, Baptist Convention of New England

Jonathan Sigman, Ten Men 2017-18 John Wesley, Ten Men 2017-18
Jonathan Sigman
Social Worker, South Kingstown Schools;
Private Practice Psychotherapist

John Wesley
Director of Policy and Advocacy
RICADV

 

Omar Bah Ten Men  Len Cabral Ten Men
Omar Bah
Founder/Executive Director
Refugee Dream Center

Len Cabral
Storyteller
(Original photo credit: Janet Swift)

Ian Colomer Ten Men  Derek Grinkin Ten Men
Ian Colomer
Policy Associate
RICADV

Derek Grinkin
Property Manager;
Asst. Football Coach, Salve Regina University

Rick Harkins Ten Men  James Kwon Ten Men
Rick Harkins
Financial Advisor/Founder/CEO
Harkins Wealth Management

James Kwon
Designer/Founder/CEO, Figmints Design Agency
(Original photo credit: Timothy Donovan)

Erlin Rogel Ten Men Peter Simon Ten Men
Erlin Rogel, J.D.
Teach for America Middle School Teacher, Providence

Peter Simon, M.D.
Pediatrician, Public Health/Health Equity

Rich Tarlaian Ten Men Larry Warner Ten Men
Rich Tarlaian
Retired Police Officer; Nonviolence Teacher;
Adjunct Professor in Sociology, CCRI

Larry Warner, M.P.H.
Retired Firefighter;
Public Health Professional

 

Taylor Britto, Ten Men Peter Converse, Ten Men
Taylor Britto
Providence Police Officer

Peter Converse
Newport Community Leader

Marty Cooper, Ten Men Carson Moore, Ten Men
Marty Cooper
Director of Community Relations
Jewish Alliance of Greater RI

Carson Moore
Student
Rhode Island College

Marlon Ramdehal, Ten Men Nelson Rocha, Ten Men
Marlon Ramdehal
Associate Director of Programs, Year Up

Nelson Rocha
Father; Community Organizer

 

Don Anderson, Ten Men

Reverend Don Anderson was raised in Cranston, Rhode Island and is an Executive Minister at the Rhode Island State Council of Churches.

Rilwan Feyisitan, Ten Men

Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr. is the Executive Director at Community Action Partnership of Providence (CAPP). He graduated from Roger Williams University in 1999 and has since been a prominent advocate for community and youth health.

"I've literally held men as they've broken down in tears reflecting on their role as abusers. They see their sons and grandsons going down the same path they set for them as their role model. I now stand shoulder to shoulder with some of them in answering the call to be more than just well-intentioned men. The Ten Men project allows many of us to give a face and voice to the male response needed to end domestic violence. My hope is that men throughout my state will stand with me to stop intimate partner violence and develop healthy, positive, loving relationships." – Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr.

Jay Gotra, Ten Men

Jay Gotra is the CEO and Founder of Alliance Security. He lives in Providence, RI. Jay graduated from UMass Dartmouth and was previously CEO of VMS Alarms.

Edgar Moya, Ten Men

Edgar Moya is an Account Executive at Telemundo Providence. He graduated from the InterAmerican University of Puerto Rico with a Bachelor's Degree in Accounting in 1999 and also received a Bachelor's Degree in Accounting from CCRI. Edgar is fluent in Spanish.

"I strongly believe that it is possible to break the cycle of domestic violence if everybody gets involved, including the men in our communities."  Edgar Moya

John Youte, Ten Men 

John Youte is the former Director of Outreach, Admissions and Student Services at Year Up Rhode Island and has over 15 years of experience in career/social services. John is fluent in Haitian-Creole.

"As a father of a six-year-old daughter, I am here to stand beside her to ensure that she will not live in a culture where violence is the norm. We as men must become agents of change to spread the message to men in our state. This cause needs all of our efforts and advocacy to change mindsets of a culture that limits us and promotes violence against those we love dearly." – John Youte

Rafael Zapata, Ten Men

Rafael Zapata is the Associate Vice President and Chief Diversity Officer at the Office of Institutional Diversity at Providence College. He is fluent in Spanish and has been involved in diversity and cultural work at both Swarthmore College and Providence College since 2002.


Ten Men made its public debut in 2013 with a June public awareness campaign.

Ten Men 2013


Ten Men members were committed to educating the community on the importance of men getting involved in the work to end domestic violence.

Their television and radio PSAs ran throughout June, encouraging Rhode Island men to start conversations with the men and boys in their lives and to lead by example in treating women with respect, having healthy relationships, being a role model for young people, and understanding the impact of the language we use.

Ten Men PSA 2013

Watch the 2013 Ten Men broadcast PSA here!


Public Service Announcements
  • 2016-2017

  • 2014-2016

  • 2013


In 2014, Ten Men created this public service announcement (PSA) to help raise awareness about men's roles in preventing domestic violence.

The PSA aired on local television stations throughout June and featured Ten Men members addressing domestic violence in their workplaces, with the same message airing as radio PSAs in both English and Spanish.

Ten Men PSA Video Thumbnail 



Ten Men received national recognition from NOMORE.org in 2014 for this innovative public awareness campaign.

First, Ten Men was spotlighted in the June issue of the national NO MORE newsletter. Then in July, NOMORE.org featured Ten Men in the blog post, "Ten Men Can Make a Difference: Meet the Men Who are Redefining Manhood."

Ten Men Redefining Manhood


In 2014, Ten Men created this public service announcement (PSA) to help raise awareness about men's roles in preventing domestic violence.

The PSA aired on local television stations in June of 2014-2015 and featured Ten Men members addressing domestic violence in their workplaces and encouraging RI men to get involved in the efforts to end abuse. The same message aired as radio PSAs in both English and Spanish throughout June 2014-2016.

Ten Men 2014-2016 PSA Video Thumbnail 



Ten Men received national recognition from NOMORE.org in 2014 for this innovative public awareness campaign.

First, Ten Men was spotlighted in the June issue of the national NO MORE newsletter. Then in July, NOMORE.org featured Ten Men in the blog post, "Ten Men Can Make a Difference: Meet the Men Who are Redefining Manhood."

NoMoreOrg blog Ten Men Redefining Manhood


Ten Men made its public debut in 2013 with a June public awareness campaign.

Television and radio public service announcements (PSAs) aired throughout the month, encouraging Rhode Island men to start conversations with the men and boys in their lives and to lead by example when it comes to treating women with respect and being a role model for young people.

Ten Men PSA 2013 Video Thumbnail

Watch the 2013 Ten Men PSA

Ten Things Men Can Do

Ten Things Men Can Do to Prevent Violence Against Women

  1. Approach violence against women as an issue that involves men of all ages and socioeconomic, racial and ethnic backgrounds. View men not as violent perpetrators but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
  2. If a friend, relative, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner, or is disrespectful or abusive toward girls and women in general, don't look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try talking to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Consult a friend, parent, teacher or counselor for help. Don't remain silent.
  3. Have the courage to look inward. Question your own attitudes. Don't be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might perpetuate sexism and violence; then work toward changing them.
  4. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused, ask if you can help.
  5. If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help.
  6. Be an ally to women who are working to end gender-based violence. Support the work of college and community women's centers. Attend related events. Help raise funds for victim services.
  7. Recognize and speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against lesbians and gays are wrong, and this abuse has direct links to sexism and, therefore, violence against women.
  8. Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence. Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
  9. Don't fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any website, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media.
  10. Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don't involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men's programs. Lead by example.

(Adapted from a resource by Jackson Katz, one of America's leading anti-sexist male activists and co-founder of Mentors In Violence Prevention (MVP).)

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